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Are we raising entitled kids who feel the world revolves around them?

We are in the middle of “me,me,me entitlement epidemic”. Our kids are out of control and many of them lack basic human qualities like empathy.

Let me begin with a short story. The other day we were visiting a friend and soon after we arrived at their place the son welcomed us by the statement “My parents are doctors, what are you?” As much as I had the urge to give him a reply my husband held my hand tighter (perhaps hinting to ignore the remark as he is just a child). None the less I sat there thinking how in my days I was never-ever allowed to talk down to elders let alone the guests and here we are in a generation where parents feel ok if the child makes an easy-peasy remark to an elder because “adults are supposed to ignore it”.

Entitled Child , sticking out tounge
A picture by Maria Lysenko

Amidst all these thoughts and pat came another retort from the young one, I found him tapping on my shoulder to pay attention to what he was saying which I quote was “My father has a lot of money, do you also have money?” The question simply made me laugh and by the looks on his face he was not at all amused by that and he was expecting more than that reaction. He quickly jumped away from my side to push away my son who was apparently playing with one of his toys. And pat comes another remark “Doesn’t he have any toys at his home, why does he have to play with mine”. I noticed the great pride the parents had on their face “what a gem of a child have we made, entirely capable of taking care of his things” and yet I thought to myself so incapable of empathy.

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Stop Judging Parents for their Parenting Techniques.

But the problem is not that. The problem was the judgers who kept looking at my son with sympathetic eyes and moms gossiping with each other on what a bad parent I am because I cannot “manage my own child”.

Young boy child crying temper tantrum in shopping cart with mother parent in produce section aisle of supermarket growing pains
Young boy child crying temper tantrum in shopping cart with mother parent in produce section aisle of supermarket growing pains

I will start this with a story. A True Story.

A few days back my son got up from his afternoon nap, as usual and suddenly started crying out loud. I attended him, soothed him, and thought might be the child had some bad dreams. Singed him, tried to wash his face and fed him. My poor little child was completely unpleased by anything of the above mentioned activities and he kept on crying. Even after 30 mins of non-stop crying, screaming, soothing and all the other activities as above mentioned he kept on clinging to me and crying incessantly.

Call it luck or his mood or god knows what after an hour of the full-on drama he brought me to the living room holding my hand and after to switch on the TV, just to make him feel alright I switched it for some time and fed him some food, gave him water, washed his face and after 20 mins I told him his screen time was over and he could have it later or perhaps tomorrow. And again he started crying and screaming on the top of his voice. I tried everything and fed up I thought of taking him out to change his mind (mine too). We had just walked out of the lift and he again starts throwing tantrums. He literally laid down on the floor and just kept crying on and on and on…I communicated very clearly that he had his time for TV today and we can go to the park and perhaps later on if he feels like it, he can watch it. He won’t budge but.

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