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Stop Judging Parents for their Parenting Techniques.

But the problem is not that. The problem was the judgers who kept looking at my son with sympathetic eyes and moms gossiping with each other on what a bad parent I am because I cannot “manage my own child”.

Young boy child crying temper tantrum in shopping cart with mother parent in produce section aisle of supermarket growing pains
Young boy child crying temper tantrum in shopping cart with mother parent in produce section aisle of supermarket growing pains

I will start this with a story. A True Story.

A few days back my son got up from his afternoon nap, as usual and suddenly started crying out loud. I attended him, soothed him, and thought might be the child had some bad dreams. Singed him, tried to wash his face and fed him. My poor little child was completely unpleased by anything of the above mentioned activities and he kept on crying. Even after 30 mins of non-stop crying, screaming, soothing and all the other activities as above mentioned he kept on clinging to me and crying incessantly.

Call it luck or his mood or god knows what after an hour of the full-on drama he brought me to the living room holding my hand and after to switch on the TV, just to make him feel alright I switched it for some time and fed him some food, gave him water, washed his face and after 20 mins I told him his screen time was over and he could have it later or perhaps tomorrow. And again he started crying and screaming on the top of his voice. I tried everything and fed up I thought of taking him out to change his mind (mine too). We had just walked out of the lift and he again starts throwing tantrums. He literally laid down on the floor and just kept crying on and on and on…I communicated very clearly that he had his time for TV today and we can go to the park and perhaps later on if he feels like it, he can watch it. He won’t budge but.

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5 Parenting tips to ignore – outdating parenting advice

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Parenting can be daunting especially for new moms and dads and certainly there is no one size fits all strategy. I was the youngest in the family which means I had never seen an actual baby let alone take care of it – cousins and everyone are there sure but you play with them for some time and give it back when it gets down to business.

So naturally I would run to my Mom for everything and anything when my son came along. Because, you know, of course she has already raised two kids and done a pretty good job (we are still breathing YAY).

But the times have changed – so much has changed that we now live in a world where we ourselves are teaching our kids not to share their food or toys with their friends while just 3 months back we were trying to push them in that park to make some friends by sharing cookies/ have heartfelt handshakes and hugs / play in the mud and share toys.

So probably with this big change certainly there are some outdated parenting advice which are downright wrong and needs no passing down to the future generation, let’s go through them and put an end to these advices:

  • Praising your kids too much :
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Which parenting style is better – strict or lenient?

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Today as the world changes gradually I see a lot of communication going on between parents and children, parents are ready to nurture and hold the little one’s precious little hands at every hurdle of life. Earlier in my days me and my parents never spoke about any topic under the sun which makes me think which of the two generations is doing a good job – are we millennials parents taking up the game a notch higher and just talking and talking to our children even on topics where it is not required or were our parents right by not attending to every little hunch.

Well I remember in my household showing affection or even talking about it (I for sure don’t remember the last time my father hugged me LOL as am sure you won’t either) was a rare scene and now there are tons and tons of books being written on how to show affection to your child for their proper cognitive development. As babies parents tend to overflow their love on them with kisses and hugs and as soon as they grow up the awkward gap just grows and grows until it becomes a generation gap where nobody understands each other (although everyone is talking the same thing) with periodic bouts of shouting and yelling.

And before you think of something – YES I was grown in a perfectly happy family and am sure you also resonate to some of these occasional bouts although very few admit to it because we all are apparently living in a world where it becomes imperative to assure yourself and others all the time that you are happy instead of dealing with the elephant in the room.

So all this rumination followed by a lot of reading, talking, research and a few podcasts led me to think which style of parenting I am going to adapt – should I be more like my parents vis-à-vis Strict or lenient like many millennial parents are in today’s age.

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